If he is drunk often its probably drivel, But if he is just an occasional drinker he probably like you said he let his guard down.

Back in my drunken days I would become very honest while drunk. However...it's really hard to say. I think it depends on the person and what exactly they said. That's how I usually gauged whether it was crap or not...but what exactly was said.

Interesting question today Lori! I don't get too many drunk dials anymore, LOL! Not like I did in high school and college! But from what I remember it does depend on the person. Someone who can be dishonest while sober is certinaly capable of being dishonest drunk and vice versa.

i feel like face to face it could make you more honest, but if you're fall-off-the-bar-stool drunk and can only just manage to dial the phone, i think it's probably just drivel...then again, what people say when joking is often true...so maybe there is some ring of truth in there.
I love the drunk dial, it CRACKS me up. I think if anything, you can at least know that you came to mind in that person's cloudy head so obviously they are thinking of you. :)

PS I got my Yandy's yesterday and have to wear them tonight!

Interesting question -- does liquor make someone more honest or more full of shit?

FACT: While intoxicated I told your brothers close friend how I loved your brother since the first day I met him. (10 years later - nuff said!)
FACT: While intoxicated my sister told me that she loved and hated me all in the same breath (She meant every word I'm sure & U've witnessed our fights and make-ups - analyze that).
FACT: I know many "happy drunks". (Why are they happy? IMHO I think they don't give a shit and are relieved that they don't have to use brain power for any real thought...they have freedom to speak from the heart (or wherever else they might be thinking from))
FACT: The few times a year I allow myself to become fully capable of drunk dialing I AM: liberated by liquor and I wholeheartedly practice free speech (you've seen me in action ;-)

So the question really isn't about whether or not your dialer is more honest or more full of shit when he's dialing....it's...Is he man enough to live up to his words when he's sober???? Simple as that -- talk is cheap!

There's an old saying down here in the south - since most men tend to be drunk quite often down here, maybe. It goes "A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts." Take it for what it's worth. I think it depends on the man whether his drunken drivel is truth or fiction.

I have been known to drunk dial and drunk e-mail and it is always HONEST stuff that I never had the nerve to tell the person while I was sober.

Hi Lori from Europe, surfing I see your blog n i enjoyed. ;)

Alex

the drunk dial is an act of lust, want and the info exchanged, although embellished, usually is true in its direction

hey sl, I just thought I'd check back to see if the "drunk dialer" was man enough to supply you with a sober comment? I can't tell from reading them. Oh and BTW I should've added to my comment yesterday that I'd wish he'd dial me cause I'd love to talk with him. You could always give him my cell # and see if he is as brave as he is bold ;-) LOL

When I used to drink, I admit, I was a drunk dialer. I would leave messages for my friends on their voicemails at work, so that when they came in on Monday, they would get a laugh.
But the THINGS I did when I was drunk, like this person calling you, well------I did them but I might not have if I was sober. Get it?
My opinion on this one though--he likes you and cannot come out and say it. Men are intimidated by someone, anyone who has your characteristics. They just don't have the nads to say what they feel when they are sober. I think you should give this one a chance!!! Couldn't hurt could it??? If you do, at least you will find out the truth and isn't that what you really want in the first place??

Adios!!

lori, hi, hope you are well (i have posted infrequently, but try to offer my insight about questions about men whenever its appropriate).

this one is simple: while it would be great to believe that the guy is letting his guard down (and probably, if you asked your girl friends, they would tell you this is the case), the simple fact is that its just drunken drivel nad i wouldnt read too deep into it. 99% of the time, the guys sole intention is to turn the drunk dial into a late night booty call (if the guy is a long distance drunk dial, dont immediate rule out the booty call, as even though its probably logistically impossible to turn it into a booty call, its really primal instinct kicking in, and in our drunken stupor we realize that getting some action will probably be difficult when the callee lives 1000 miles away from the caller).

Again, we men are not as complex as women would like to believe we are. our drunken spew is just that, and if the guy really did feel remotely close to the picture he portrays on the drunk dial, he would say it to you sober. and while i am not sure how old you are, i would opine that you are better off remaining uninvolved with a guy past the age of 25 who engages in the drunken dialing (or drunken email, chat, or any other form of drunken communication).

Datea i have gathered has proven that the intentions spewed during the drunk dial are never followed up on in sobriety. Actually, a number of my girl friends have relayed to me that a high proportion of the drunks who have dialed them were married, engaged, or otherwise spoken for in some way, shape or form. And many of my girl friends (after listeing to the adivce of their own girl friends) chose to believe that "this must be the way he really feels, he does really love me and not her, he is going to leave her for me, he is just scared (insert whatever excuse you like best at this point)", but its all a fantasy.

and while i have no idea of your relationship with the drunk dialer, or the content of the conversation with said drunk dialer, if any of what i have written is relative to your own partiulcar experience, turn your ringer off in your bedroom and find a guy who is capable of respecting you engouh to call you during "normal" phone hours and having an intelligent, sincere, and most importantly ADULT conversation.

No disrespect to any other commenters, but honestly, drunk dialing stops in a mans mid 20's (unless the guy has a drinking problem). and any guy still going out , getting bombed, and who doesnt have the self control to not scroll through his phone at 3am and phone females who he feels will even pick up his call, is someone who is going to simply waste your time should you buy into whatever load of shit he spews to you when drunk dialing in the middle of the night.

thanks, take care of yourself.

As a reformed drunk dialer, I can tell you that it--including all the mushiness--means but one thing:

"I'm horny. How 'bout it?"

this guy ive been seeing has been calling me late night, drunk and would tell me that he loves me. the next day i would confront him, he'll play this game oh-really?-i-cant-remember-what-i-said and completely laugh about it. hows that?